Slow dating for kind humans
The refreshing antidote to shallow swipe culture. An authentic, honest space where meaningful connections form through words, not photos.
Today's Question
"What's a small thing that brings you unexpected joy?"
The Library is built on a radical idea: that who you are matters more than what you look like. Here, connections bloom through daily questions, thoughtful answers, and conversations that reveal the person beneath the profile. No selfies. No snap judgments. Just the quiet magic of getting to know someone, one word at a time.
Three principles that set The Library apart from every other dating app.
No selfies, no instant judgments. Members answer daily questions from seven categories, revealing values and personality. Matches evolve naturally through words.
Your identity stays protected. Members remain anonymous until they choose to connect. When you do, a private chat space lets conversation develop at your own pace.
Free to join. No advertising. No pressure to upgrade. Start with four free "stamps" for connections. After that, roughly 95p per connection you choose to make.
Share your preferences, not your photos. Tell us what matters to you.
Each day brings a new question. Your answers paint your portrait.
Find kindred spirits through shared values and compatible answers.
Use a stamp to start a private chat. Let the conversation unfold.
"I love that I don't have to dig out pics of myself. The quality of conversation tells me so much more than judging looks ever could. I'm actually finding out things about myself I'd never given thought to."
"Such a chill vibe, there's no pressure and many connections lead to friendships. The admins are the best too — that really underlines the sense of safety of this site."
"I've met some very nice people here and ultimately found 'the one.' When your ability to see the person is taken away, your connection is based purely on conversations."
1,000+
UK Members
60%
Women
7
Question Categories
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Engagement (so far!)
Yes. Joining is free, with no credit card required, and you start with four free "stamps" for connections.
A stamp is what you use to start a private chat with a match. After your four free stamps, connections cost roughly 95p each, and only for the ones you choose to make.
No. The Library has no photos. Instead, you answer daily questions from seven categories, and matches develop through your words.
Yes. Members remain anonymous until they choose to connect. Once you do, a private chat space lets the conversation develop at your own pace.
Please get in touch with us through the Contact link in the footer, or email [support email address].
Join a community of thoughtful people who believe that meaningful connections start with meaningful conversations.
Join The Library — It's FreeNo credit card required. Start with 4 free stamps.
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